When having a boy – Must I get him CIRCUMCISED??!!

Having a son means, he must get his foreskin removed.

Circumcision -‘foreskin is the hood of the skin covering the penis, which can gently be pulled back.’

Is your son circumcised?

This can be a very controversial topic, as it is mainly done for three reasons: religion, hygiene or medical.

Many people have a strong opinion about the topic, when they don’t know what the benefits are.
Here is why it’s a good idea to have the penis circumcised according to NHS (National Health Service).
Please click on the link.
nhs.ukhttp://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Circumcision/Pages/Advantages-and-disadvantages.aspx
In my case not only do I personally agree with the pros, I agree that foreskin should be removed.
My son had his foreskin removed when he was 2 weeks old, by a registered GMC (General Medical Council ) doctor.

The process has 3 simple steps

1- Book Doctors appointment

Under the NHS, the circumcision is NOT free unless it is done for a medical reason. Non NHS service can range from as little as £100 to £1000+ (Depending on age, private healthcare or service package.)

Where should I go?
You can ask at the hospital you gave birth at, or ask family&friends if they can recommend anyone or ask your GP. I was recommended to see a GP, who has a circumcision clinic on Saturdays. I was happy with my decision because I knew someone who had already been their.

2- Getting the circumcision done

The process of getting the foreskin removed is straight forward and is left to the medical profession ONLY. So, all I did was watch over in anticipation until it was all done.

How is it performed

A little anaesthetic is given, then to remove the foreskin the doctor uses a scalpel, scissor or a surgical clamp. In my case my son had a ‘ring’ attached around to his ‘manhood’ before the skin was removed. So once done, we just needed it to heal and wait for the ring to slide off. Tip – Put Vaseline directly onto the ring and everytime you change the nappy re-apply. Before you know it the ring will slid off.

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3- Recovery

After it was done, I gave my son some paracetamol (Calpol) as he had a little temperature, soreness, redness and was little swollen. I was advised to place his penis down when placing the nappy on, as it would rub against his penis (glans). All of the above are normal symptoms BUT if any bleeding, long term swelling or problems passing urine occur get medical assistance fast.

What are your views on this topic? Do think it is clean to leave it on? Would you ever get your son circumcised ? 

If you have an opinion on this topic please comment.

Thanks for reading,

SophieMoti x

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153 thoughts on “When having a boy – Must I get him CIRCUMCISED??!!

  1. Hi Sophie,
    I agree with you. Penis is not clean when it is not circumcised. But the main and most important reason for male circumcision is to protect against infections.

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    1. Hi Andrew,
      Thank you for having a read. Many people have it done to decreases the chance of having a urine infection or even to reduce the risk of catching some sexually transmitted diseases. It will not totally protect against infections but will reduce the chances but far.

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  2. Hi Sophie,
    I stumbled across your blog and was interested to see that you made the decision to have your son circumcised.
    I am expecting a baby boy in February, and my husband and I always said that if we have a baby boy, that we would have him circumcised.
    I have done a little research into place to get it done in London. Where did your son have his done exactly?
    It sounds like your experience was a satisfactory one and that you are happy with the result?
    The one thing I am a bit nervous about is the end result. I want my son to grow up happy with the way his penis looks, with a neat and tidy scar line. The thing is that once the foreskin is removed the result is permanent. Is this something you were worried about before you had your son circumcised?

    Best,
    Nikki

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    1. Hi Nikki,

      Thank you so much for taking an interest in my blog and congratulations on the pregnancy, soon to be birth.
      Having my son circumcised wasn’t a difficult decision for me. I happy to know you and your husband have come to make the decision of doing it for your son too.
      I saw Dr Zahid Ghufoor from Streatham Park Surgery, SW16 6LY. Yes I was very satisfied, the procedure is simple and after care instruction were given.
      I would suggest you take milk with you if not breastfeeding and get ready for more cuddles then usual, he may also have temperature so don’t forget the Calpol.
      After two and half years of being circumcised,we have NEVER had urine infections, nappy rash or redness. It looks neat and he can clean himself properly when going to the toilet nicely.

      I hope this helps you Nikki and I wish you the best of luck.
      Let me please know how it goes , when you have it done.

      Love Sophie xxx

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      1. Hi Sophie,

        Just to update you, my son was born a little early at the end of January, rather than early February. Anyway, now that he has established a good breast feeding routine, I we are ready to get him circumcised. So today I took the brave step of picking up the phone and booking him in for the snip. I will be taking him to the clinic on Monday afternoon, where he will be done with about three other boys.
        I think we’re doing the right thing. I’m a little bit nervous about it, but in the long term my husband and I think it will be cleaner and healthier for him with his foreskin removed.

        I’ll let you know how it goes!

        Nikki x

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      2. Hi Nikki,
        Congratulations on the birth of your son. I am so happy to know that everything has well and you have established a good breast feeding routine, as I know it can be difficult to do so. Well done for booking an appointment, I think that’s the hardest thing to do. The procedure will be over and done so quickly you will be surprised.
        I would recommend that you take calpol with you or any kind of paracetamol you wish to give. As the swelling will cause discomfort and he’s temperature will rise. Ohh and be ready to breast feed straight after, that will Sooth him straight away.
        This will be one of those times, when he would probably want to be in your arms for hours. 😊 More cuddle, cuddles and cuddles.
        I hope it goes well. Once again congratulations and thank you so much for keeping me update 😍 Love Sophie xxx

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  3. Thanks for the quick reply, Sophie. It is very useful to get your perspective. I shall definitely consider streatham park surgery for when we have our son circumcised.
    I am curious as to your interest in getting your son done, as a lot of people in this country don’t approve of it. When I asked my gp about it, she said it was unnecessary to remove a baby’s foreskin unless there is a problem. For me, it’s just what I’m used to. All my family are circumcised, and it’s not a religious thing. Were English, but for some reason, my mother insisted that my brothers got circumcised mainly for the health benefits you commented on. For me, I can’t deny there is a cosmetic aspect to it. The first penises I ever saw as a girl growing up were my brothers’ circumcised ones. So I suppose I grew up thinking that is how a penis should look. Luckily my husband is circumcised too, which he had done as a six year old due to medical issues at the time.
    Have you encountered any judgmental attitudes from anyone for having your son circumcised?

    Nikki Xxx

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    1. Hi Nikki,
      When I was pregnancy I looked in many different health issue,from breastfeeding to circumcision. I knew they’re both things that I wouldn’t to do and found one harder to do then the other.
      Yes, breastfeeding believe it or not.

      Putting religious/cultural and families feeling aside,I thought I would research the benefits and I believed in all them to be true.
      I am Muslim, we class the foreskin around the penis to be ‘Dirty Skin’. As a women I believe the same.
      As for people being judgemental, yes I have few comments in regards to this blog post. But it doesn’t bother me and I know my son will have a clean and infection free penis. That’s all that matters. Not long ago I experienced, girls saying why would you remove pubic hair and now it’s all about The Brazilian. It just goes to show people will soon catch up and if you believe it what you are doing is right, do it. It is legal.

      I hope this helps you.
      Sophie x

      Please keep reading my blog and thank you for taking and an interest.

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  4. Hello Sophie,
    I agree that circumcision is a good idea.
    When I had my first son, it never even crossed my mind to get him circumcised as a baby. I just thought that’s what Jews, Muslims and Americans do. It certainly isn’t common among native uk families. However, when my son got to the age of three, he used to spray everywhere when he did a pee, and we found out that part of the reason was that his foreskin was too tight to be able to pull back. The gp tried to suggest various methods to loosen the foreskin, rather than a full circumcision. But after I started researching circumcision, I realised the many benefits of having it done and found that it could be done relatively inexpensively as an outpatient clinic under local anaesthetic. It took a lot of patience to get my son to sit calmly for the circumcision itself, but he seemed to cope very well with it. He had the ring method too, and we had to be careful that he didn’t pull the ring off before it was ready to come off. When it did come off after about 10 days, it was pretty much healed and looked a lot better. My son seemed rather fascinated with his new penis, as it obviously looked totally different with the glans now permanently exposed. But he got used to it soon enough.
    Since then, I have had two more boys, and I decided that they might as well have the same benefit as their older brother, so I had each of them circumcised as newborns, when it was much easier to get it over and done with.
    I have no regrets at all. Yes, they may now look different from most of their friends, but they will most likely have some boys in their peer group that were also circumcised. It’s not all that uncommon.

    Anyway, I just wanted to share my thoughts on circumcision and hope it encourages others to at least consider getting this done for any sons they may have.

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    1. Hi Liz,
      Thank you so much for sharing your story and taking time to read my blog. It means so much to me and actually puts a MASSIVE smile on my face. 😉

      I guess without independent research, many people in the UK are unaware of the benefits. I happy to know, the circumcision for your eldest child went well. It’s cute to know he was fascinated with the new ‘looking penis’. I guess at that age he could really notice and vocally said what the difference is.

      Thank you for taking time to comment.
      Please share this and let’s educate other mums together.

      Love Sophie x

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  5. Hi Sophie,

    I think circumcision is a good thing. When each of my boys were born, I had a strong and impatient desire to get each of them circumcised as soon as possible. I am originally from the US, where the vast majority of boys are circumcised a day or so after they are born, before checking out of the maternity ward. To me, growing up, I have just always assumed that all boys have to get circumcised. I don’t view it as a religious thing myself, but more of a basic step towards a lifetime of easier hygiene. Plus I prefer the appearance of a circumcised penis too. It just looks right to me.
    I have been surprised at how controversial the topic of circumcision is in the UK. People seem to say how cruel and painful it is, but if it is done with local anaesthetic, boys handle it very well, and if they are circumcised as a newborn, it is all fully healed in a week and then it’s all over and done with. No need to worry about penis health issues thereafter!
    Anyway, it’s good to discover another person in favour of giving this lifetime gift to one’s son(s).

    Roberta x

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    1. Hi Roberta,
      Thank you so much for your telling me about your experinece.Love hearing mums views on this very much so conversial topic, as it seems to be here (UK). I would just like to know how you came about this blog post I wrote?
      It is something I find very interesting to know. Please could you share it.
      Thank you, Love Sophie x

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  6. Oh, hi Sophie, yes, I think I found a link to your blog in another blog. Maybe it was ‘londonwithatoddler.com’, I’m not sure. Anyway, I then found your write up on circumcision, which I thought was interesting!

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  7. So by way of an update, I took my son to the clinic on Monday afternoon as planned, and in spite of a few last minute jitters on my part, I went through with the whole procedure. In the end, we opted for my son to be circumcised with the Gomco clamp rather than the Plastibell. The end result should be the same once it has all healed, but with the Gomco, all of the foreskin is removed in one go. My son had a little bandage around where he was cut for the first day, and then after the first day I removed it as I wanted to see how it looked. The glans is still quite red and a bit sore looking now that it is exposed. Poor boy. He does seem in some discomfort and seems to be quite stressed during nappy changes. I do hope that I did the right thing for him! Most of all I hope he doesn’t grow up wishing we had left the choice to him!

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    1. Hi Nicola , thanks hun for keeping me updated. Well done for going ahead with it. Everything your experiencing with the son sounds about right. The soreness, discomfort and the self questioning. It’s a good decision you have made, think of all the positives of being circumcised. I’m sure he want be upset with thought, of you getting him circumcised. Once he’s old enough he will also appreciate the cleanliness of it. Good choice mum . 😍 Love ,SophieMoti x
      (Don’t Forget to follow me on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @sophiemoti ) x

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  8. Thanks for the encouragement Sophie.
    Now we’re one week on from our son’s appointment and I can happily say that my son’s circumcision no longer seems to bother him and it’s healing is almost complete! He had his frenulum removed as part of the circumcision, and that is the only part that isn’t yet fully healed.
    All my doubts about getting this done are quickly evaporating, and am pleased that we had it done.
    Already it looks a lot better, and my son will have no memory of the past week, and he’ll take it for granted that he has a penis that is both cleaner and looks much neater.

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    1. Hi Nicola , sorry for the late reply. I’m been rushed on feet arranging a pamper coffee morning in Leicester. Back to circumcision, that’s amazing to know the penis has heeled well and you are happy with outcome. I appreciate you keeping me informed of the process. X love SophieMoti x If you already please follow me on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @sophiemoti x

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  9. I chose to have my boys circumcised after seeing how well it had worked for my American cousin when she had her boys.

    Most American boys are circumcised, and after learning of the hygiene advantages, I decided it is cleaner and healthier and am now in favour of circumcision for boys.

    I think the best circumcision method I have seen so far is the Jewish method. My boys were circumcised by a mohel. It only takes a minute or two to snip the foreskin, and it works very quickly for the boy.

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    1. Hi Rosanna, thank you so much for taking time to read my blog post and commenting. It’s good to know you saw it first, then decided to get your boys circumcised. The benefits for sure out way the reasons not too. My son is going on to be three years old and has never had any form of infection. So in my books that’s perfect.
      Take care
      SophieMoti x

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      1. I think some Europeans assume that circumcision is just something for Jewish or Muslim boys, but it’s actually performed on boys in many countries and cultures.

        For example, as I said above, most American boys are circumcised – not just the Jewish & Muslim boys, but also the Christian boys. And when I talk to Americans, most American boys are happy to be circumcised.

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  10. Hi Sophie and thank you for highlighting something that is so often ignored in the UK and the rest of Europe.
    I was like the rest of my family and almost all my friends growing up was not circumcised as a child. Then after years of doctors visits due to tight foreskin and infections I finally visited a doctor while working overseas who straightaway suggested circumcision. I was initially scared of the procedure which I had been told was a barbaric Jewish and Muslim custom, but after so many issue I was prepared to try anything.
    What a revelation, after a few weeks of recovery and healing I was back to using it again, and immediately could tell how much cleaner and healthier it was, it performed better in bedroom, and the head flared out making it more mushroom like which was a big hit with my wife.
    For all those reasons it was an easy decision to make when my son was born. Luckily he was born overseas so getting it done was easy (before he left hospital). I just wish UK and European society would appreciate its benefits and promote it more.
    It is really ridiculous how much of a stigma it has with so many segments of society.
    Gerry

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    1. Wow, Gerry thank you so much for sharing you personal story with me. After all that pain and uncomfortable feeling I’m glad you finely saw the Dr again( even if was abroad) and went to get circumcised. Yes, you’re right about the stigma. This is why I am written the blog post.
      Please share on your social media and tag #SophieMoti

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  11. I was born in UK. Do you think the stigma will change in UK? How do mothers react now?mmy wife says her friends were all surprised by our decision. I suspect it comes from ignorance.

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      1. That’s very good point. Unfortunately I have no really answer for that. I strongly think maybe its because it’s hardly promoted, talked about and discussed.

        The topic “circumcision ” is very old and so is “breastfeeding” . The difference between the two is what?
        One is spoken about freely and the other isn’t.

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      2. Someone asks below why circumcision is more common in the U.S. than in Europe. I don’t have a definitive answer, but as an American, living in the South, one fact that often gets overlooked is that the U.S. is much warmer than most of Europe. Look at Europe on a globe, not a flat map, then trace around to North American. Most of Europe is in the same latitudes as Canada, or the Northern U.S. According to an online search, the average high temp for London is 66F, or 19C. Where I live in the U.S., the average LOW temperature for July is 68F or 20C. The average daytime high is 90F, or 32.2 C. This is by no means uncommon. The average July high for Boston, which is in the northern U.S. is 82F or 27.7C. I think this is part of the reason so many boys in this country are circumcised. Otherwise, in addition to the health benefits, I think women here have come to appreciate the cleanliness of circumcision, both for their husbands/partners, and the fact that their sons are always clean, dry, and maintenance free. Women here (and men for that matter), also appreciate the clean look it confers, and consider the appearance much better than un-circ’ed. Climate notwithstanding, I do hope it becomes more popular in the U.K., because I believe it is healthier, improves and insures hygiene, and reduces infection, and the chance of other problems. Best wishes.

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  12. Some comments online maybe, but the ones I know about are face to face. Do you think there is some racism involved in this issue?

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  13. This blog really struck a cord. I am from UK but living in Muslim country married to a Muslim man, so circumcision when my first son was born I had to decide. Husband insisted that he be circumcised. We argued for a few months before I agreeid to it.
    After going to doctor it was really nothing to worry about and it didn’t seem to bother him much. He just slept all afternoon. For second son we had it done before he left hospital.
    If you do it right away it is paid for by government too. Maybe NHS should do that?

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    1. Hi Heather, thank you for sharing your story with me. Yes, making the decision is the biggest thing to worry about. I’m glad to know you also had a pleasant experience of circumcising your boys.

      Thank you SophieMoti. X

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  14. Thank Sophie xx
    Did you have people to talk to? I remember feeling alone and confused with all the different information available. I am sure I am not the only one.

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    1. To be honest I didn’t talk to many people about it, it’s something I wanted to do and did it for my son. I’m sorry you felt alone. I hope talking to me has helped. X

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      1. Hi Sophie,

        I totally agree with you on your views on circumcision. I think you did a great thing for your son and he’ll likely thank you when he gets older!

        As for myself, I wasn’t circumcised as a baby. I grew up in Canada at a time when most boys around me were circumcised. It definitely made things a little awkward growing up. Overall, I’ve never had any major issues with my foreskin. I did get one infection when I was about six and I do remember a bathtub incident where it got caught in a bath toy! One thing is that it is rather tight. I can pull it back when erect, but it isn’t easy to say the least. After rigorous sex, or doing it multiple times, it can cause soreness from the strain on the frenulum. Condoms are also a major challenge; they don’t like to stay on and the condom tends to get caught inside the foreskin. Also, I’m a really clean guy, but I do notice a slight odor as the day wears on.

        I know that circumcised guys don’t have to worry about any of these issues. I do wish my parents had me snipped as a newborn. I’ve contemplated getting circumcised, but it’s costly and the pain/hassle of getting done as an adult keeps me wary.

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      2. Hi Steve,
        thanks for sharing your very informative experience. Maybe you could get medical advice, to see how the procedure plays out for you as an adult. It might be easier that you thought. Take care and if you ever get it done, please let me know how it went.

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  15. Thanks Sophie,

    Will do. Do you have any guy friends who have got it done as an adult? Also, what do a lot of your girlfriends think of circumcision? Since you’re in the UK, I’m curious as to how they react to your support of the procedure. I’ve heard that more UK women are in favour of it than one would assume. Have you convinced any of your friends/acquaintances to have their boys circumcised?

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  16. Hi Sophie,

    I think it is great that you brought out into the open all the positives of having your son circumcised.
    I have three boys, and because I grew up in a family that is very pro-circumcision, there was never any doubt about having each of them circumcised as newborns. I just think it is cleaner this way. Also, even though it does produce a scar, I still think a circumcised penis looks more tidy.
    My oldest son is six and he has noticed that his penis looks different from other boys, so I had to explain what we did for him when he was a baby and he seems perfectly fine about it. I’m pleased about that.
    I do sometimes talk about circumcision with other mums. Most are against it, but I did manage to convince my sister in law to have her two boys circumcised, whereas they might still be uncircumcised otherwise.

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    1. Hi Jenny,
      Thank you so much for liking my blog post. Yes I’m very proud that he was circumcised. I’m totally about promoting this topic even though it mainly gets people feeling irate. Nice to know I have connected with another mother who is FOR circumcision.
      Did your sister-in-law know anything about circumcision before hand?

      Thank you for commenting and please share it with other parents.

      Love SophieMoti x

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      1. Sophie/other ladies,

        Lots of you seem to be pro circumcision, which I guess means the world is moving in right direction.

        What do you think best way to encourage more people to practice the custom is? Is it education? it seems that once people know what circumcision is and have experienced it (either themselves or with a partner or with a child) they realise it is the best way.

        With that in mind it still baffles me that it is still so unpopular in UK. Does anyone know why?

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      2. Hi Gerry,

        I truly believe it down to education, and lack of it here in the UK. Unfortunately it’s that simple. I think it’s good that many people like us talk about it and promote it.
        Promoting circumcision is key.

        Please share this blog post and thank you for commenting.

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      3. You are doing a great job Sophie,
        Have you tried to educate mothers personally or just on social media?
        What sort of response do you get? I imagine a lot of people could be hostile.
        Gerry

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      4. Thank you so much Gerry, I appreciate that so much. Please tag me #SophieMoti so I read other people’s comments. I’m on Instagram too @sophiemoti. I get very mixed comments but I just respect they just aren’t educated on this topic.

        Kind regards, SophieMoti.

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      5. Thanks for kind words as usual Sophie.
        Why don’t you set up dedicated blog/twitter/Instagram for the issue to keep it on the agenda more?
        Just and idea
        Gerry

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      6. Sophie,
        If you need any help or perspective please let me know I would be happy to help out.
        If you do need help what would you need?
        Gerry

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      7. Hi Sophie,
        To answer your question, my sister in law knew that my husband had to be circumcised at the age of about ten because of a tight foreskin, so she was at least aware of circumcision in that sense. But she still thought of circumcision as something that only Jews and Muslims do, unless also for medical reasons. She didn’t think it was a good idea just to get it done as a routine.
        But anyway, she was aware that I got my oldest son circumcised as a baby and was curious then, so I explained my thoughts at the time. Then, after my second son was born, she actually accompanied me to his circumcision at a nearby GP surgery. When she saw how simple and easy it was to get done, and how quickly and beautifully it healed afterwards, she then went to the same clinic to get her son circumcised a year later. It seems to have worked out very well for their family and now she is a supporter of circumcision.

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      1. Hi Gerry,
        Good question.
        It basically comes down to the fact that my mother is Australian, and grew up at a time when almost all boys were routinely circumcised at birth, mainly for hygiene reasons. I suppose when it becomes the norm, you start to develop an idea that that is just how a penis should look.
        I got to see my brothers and cousins a fair bit growing up, and just assumed that boys were born that way. I suppose it wasn’t until later that I learned that they had all been born with foreskins that had to be removed shortly after birth. I suppose I never got to examine a circumcised penis close up until I met my husband, and then I could see the scar line where the circular cut had been made.

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      2. Hi everyone,
        Smashing to see this thread is alive and well. Jenny and Sophie: I am opposite to you two as I come form a family that is not pro circumcision, but I am pleased to say that now I am in charge of the family it is totally “foreskin free”.

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      3. I think if one wanted to actively promote circumcision in the Uk, i think you would have to make it easier to get baby boys circumcised in the hospital a day or so gate birth.
        It didn’t impact me because I had researched it in advanced and was very determined to have my boys circumcised. I wasn’t going to be easily put off by it ‘no longer being available in the hospital’.
        I happen to know at least two other mums who wanted their sons circumcised but never got round to it because it was not readily available.

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      4. Hi Jenny,
        that’s so true. I was like you, I knew what I was going to do it and already had the arrangement in place. But you have a very fair point it should be promoted in hospitals.
        Thank so much for your support.

        Love SophieMoti x

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  17. A friend of mine had her baby at the Portland Hospital, which is a private hospital and provides circumcision on the maternity ward.
    In NHS hospitals, they don’t provide circumcision for baby boys because it is regarded as something you have to arrange privately.
    I have no problem paying privately to get my boys circumcised, because I know that the average British taxpayer does not want to pay for the minority of boys in this country to be circumcised, unless it is for medical reasons.
    But the NHS could actually make a little money by making circumcision more readily available on a private basis to NHS maternity patients. I’m sure there is demand for this.
    And I for one, would definitely prefer to send baby off for a quick and easy circumcision while your recovering on the maternity ward.

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    1. Hi Liz,
      Many thanks for reading my blog post and commenting. Yes, I totally agree with your points. It would of easier to have my son circumcised at the hospital than sorting it out privately. But I too didn’t mind the cost and booking.

      Thanks,

      Sophie x

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  18. Hi Sophie, interesting blog post. I’m a mature English guy though now living in Australia, born back in 1953 shortly after the NHS started,

    As a young boy I was curious why a playmates penis looked different from mine, so being young and innocent I simply asked my mother, she was honest enough to explain that he had been circumcised and what exactly that entailed, she further said that when I was born she had requested that I be circumcised as all the men in the family were back then. It was there that she ran up against the new Anti-Circ stance in the UK at that time though obviously some parents has more luck as about 20% of boys at my schools were circumcised. So, while I grew up uncut my mother did teach me the importance of practicing proper penis hygiene and she even encouraged me to leave my foreskin retracted and the glans exposed after bathing, something I was happy to do as I both liked seeing my glans exposed but also liked the dry clean feeling of it like that. While I never outright asked her, I think she was rather pro-circ. also, during the school years, I knew two boys who had to be circumcised for foreskin problems, it was also obvious that many boys never retracted, or could not retract their foreskins.

    In my early 20’s I came out to live and work in Sydney, Australia and being an avid swimmer I soon realized that just about every Aussie guy a saw in the locker rooms were proudly circumcised and of course I soon realized that the vast majority of Aussie girls had never seen a foreskin, let alone had sex with one before.

    I became increasingly interested in the whole concept of male circumcision and increasingly started to wonder what it would be like to be circumcised. You don’t have to be a genius to realize that the circumcised penis offers simple health and cleanliness benefits and from intimate conversations it was apparent that it also offers sexual benefits as well.

    So, i’m happy to report that eventually I took the plunge and had myself circumcised and I love my circumcised penis and so it seems do those I have shared it with, even more so is the look of shock and wonder on their faces when I tell them I was cut as an adult.

    Almost universally they say, “that must have been painful” and yet nothing could be further from the truth. I can report my circumcision was pain free and much simpler than I could have imagined.

    I would recommend circumcision to anyone considering it, my only regret is not getting it done when I was much younger or better yet when I was a newborn.

    Sorry this has been a bit long winded but I thought it worth telling my story.

    Nigel

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    1. Hi Nigel,
      I’m sorry for the extremely late response to your comment.
      firstly thank you so much for sharing your story. Its always nice to know where my readers points are coming from.
      Please could you tell me how you found my blog post and would you please share it…don’t forget to tag me @SophieMoti. Thanks 🙂
      I truly appericate the time you took out to read my blog post and comment. It sounds like you also had circumcision on your mind for many years and I am happy you that you finally had it done, even though it was was later on in life.

      Many thanks,
      SophieMoti

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      1. Hi Sophie,

        Honestly I can’t remember where I saw the link to your blog sorry. I think it’s great that a woman, and especially one in the UK is confident enough to come out and openly express a preference for the circumcised penis, good on you. In some ways the UK and many other similar countries have gone over the top with political correctness where people can’t express an opinion on things with offending someone, let alone on such a sensitive subject as male circumcision.

        Yes, your right, the thought of circumcision had been on my mind for a very long time but better late than never, I’m proud that I’m now circumcised and contrary to what others may say, my circumcised penis gives me just as much pleasure now as it did before though I believe it’s much better looking now without all that loose, wrinkly foreskin and of course, it’s always clean and fresh.

        While the rate of circumcision has also declined here in Australia it’s still high compared to the UK. Within my circle of friends, everyone is circumcised and all have had their sons done as well. It’s not such a taboo subject as it is in the UK or Europe and I see an increasing number of clinics specifically advertising circumcision so they demand is still there.
        Nigel
        @sophiemoti

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  19. Hi Sophie,
    A friend has been told son needs circumcision for medical reasons and is distraught. She didn’t even realise that many of us choose to do it to prevent problems. She didn’t know Muslims circumcise either.
    She is totally ignorant on subject, and to make matters worse husband gets frequent foreskin infections.
    I was appalled!
    Heather

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    1. Morning Heather,
      thanks for sharing your friends story with me. That’s a shame to know her son and husband have the same problem. The foreskin is a very difficult place to keep clean and due to that it is very prone to infections. Please assure her that the actual circumcision procedure isn’t bad and the penis will look and feel better. As her son is getting it done for medical reasons it will be probably free, whereas if her husband chooses to then may need to pay and get it done privately. (Which isn’t too expensive) I hope once done they will both feel pain / infection free.

      Please keep me updated on their story.
      Many thanks,
      SophieMoti

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      1. Good to hear from you Sophie, yes foreskins seem awful, and thankfully I don’t have to deal with them and the issues they seem to create!
        I told the mother all those things but stopped short of suggesting circumcision for her husband. What do you think I should say? My guy is Muslim so I never had this issue.
        x
        Heather

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      2. Hey,
        If someone isn’t sure about something maybe they just need to educated on the issue.
        Her husband could maybe ask his doctor few questions about circumcision. What is it? How is it done? Will it affect my marriage ? Maybe he’s not in to it because he doesn’t know much about it.
        ( Show him my blog post)

        Circumcision sounds scary and if you don’t know much about it. Would your partner talk to your friends husband about circumcision?
        Sometimes a little positive and informative talk is all that is needed.

        I hope this has helped.

        Thanks,
        Sophie x

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      3. Great tips Sophie, I’ve emailed her your blog and I’ll get hub on the case, he always says he’s a top salesman!
        Do you thing they’ll go for it? I am a bit worried they’ll be offended as its really not something they are used to.
        Thanks, and starting to feel like the start of a mission impossible movie!
        x
        Heather

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      4. Aww that’s for your kinda words Heather.
        I’m happy that my blog post has got someone’s attention.

        Just because I’m noisy I would love to know how you came to read my blog post? If you can please re post and tag me. I’m on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter. @sophiemoti

        To be honest we are talking about something that is very shhhh shhh. He will either appreciate you giving him information or may be a little shocked😁. Either way at least you have informed him that their are options and you never know secretly he may actually go and find out further information by himself.

        Thanks,
        Sophie

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      5. Hi Sophie,
        It was a while ago, but I think I found you blog with Google.
        Reading through the posts again now it seems a lot of men are choosing to get circumcised and feel better afterwards. Is this a trend that’s been kept shh shh?
        I spoke to friend today, she still says religious “nonsense” so might not make any progress with husband or more importantly the little one.
        Mission is more impossible than I thought.
        x
        Heather
        PS: I am not on Twitter but I have been considering it. I had a really bad experience with Facebook so locked it down.

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      6. Hi Heather ,

        Many thanks for letting me know how my blog post came to be seen by you.

        Well at least you have tried. It’s not for everyone unfortunately that’s the beauty of life. It’s ok though. Chin up 😃

        007 Heathers mission will one day he completed.

        Take care.
        Love Sophie. X

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  20. Hi Sophie,

    Thanks for writing this article, great to read yours and others views that match mine. It’s interesting to read the comments from other mothers who have chosen to circumcise their sons. I know it is not common here in the UK, some might say controversial too, but I do think it is becoming more common.

    My husband and I found your blog while we were searching for circumcision clinics in London. Our first boy will be making an appearance in a couple of months and we have decided to get it done. Neither of us have a religious requirement for circumcision, but for my husband it is somewhat of a family tradition, with every boy getting it done. For me the health and hygiene factors make it a no-brainer. I hope hubby does not mind me saying this, but he was my first circumcised partner. I hadn’t given it much thought up to that point, but the cleanliness aspect was like night and day. I don’t think the others were unhygienic, but circumcision makes a huge improvement.

    I know for you it has been a few years, but do you know if Dr Ghufoor at the Streatham Park surgery is still carrying out the procedure? I cannot see it mentioned on their website. We obviously want to choose a good doctor that is very well experienced in performing circumcisions. I think a Muslim doctor will be best, as they are likely to have that experience.

    I agree with you and others who have commented, it should be talked about more in the UK. Parents need to be educated about the benefits, not just told ‘it’s not necessary’, then they can decide what is right for their family.

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    1. Hi Bex and Neil,

      It is my pleasure to write this article. My blog is based on my experiences as mother and I hope it helps other parents. It’s good to know you are on the same page as me. I love interacting with like minded mums/ mums to be.

      Firstly, congratulations🎉🎉🎉

      I am happy to find out if Dr Ghufoor is still practising circumcision.
      I would without a doubt recommend him as he has done many circumcision on babies that I know personally.

      Please could you email me at SophieMoti@hotmail.com

      Please don’t forget to share this blog post and tag me too.

      Many thanks,
      SophieMoti.

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  21. Hi Sophie,

    Thanks for the quick reply. I have just emailed you. We are definitely in agreement when it comes to circumcision. For us, like you, it was an easy decision to make. We now have to find the right doctor.

    Which is why it was good to know you personally recommend Dr Ghufoor. We are happy to contact his surgery ourselves, so no need for you to do this. I just wondered if you knew. I am sure he will still be performing the operation as it sounds like he has a lot of satisfied patients.

    Best Wishes
    Bex x

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    1. Hi Sophie,

      Good news, Dr Ghufoor still does infant circumcisions. We spoke to the surgery earlier and confirmed it. They gave us his contact details as he manages the appointments himself.

      Thanks again for the recommendation. Hope to hear from you soon.

      Best wishes
      Bex x

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      1. Hi Sophie,

        Thanks for the mail, you really have been a great help! Hopefully other parents will read your article and make the right decision for their sons too.

        Bex x

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  22. Hi Sophie,
    Hubby is a salesman and a half and seems to have worked his magic somehow! He had a chat with him and convinced him to go for it.
    He won’t tell me what said. It’s boys talk apparently!
    Maybe he should be the next Bond?
    x
    Heather

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  23. Hi Sophie, Hi Bex and Everyone else

    Seems like a great day for circumcision everywhere today! Is the tide finally turning?

    Shall we start popping virtual champagne corks?
    x
    Heather

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    1. Ladies 🎉🎉🎉🎉
      I happy to pop open the bottle.

      please don’t forget to share this article and follow me on social media @ SophieMoti

      😘Thanks for all the comments and support. X

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      1. Sophie, Heather,

        Yes, definitely a day to pop a cork virtually. Your husband has done a great service for your friends.

        I think the tide is definitely turning, a bit slowly, but hopefully the momentum will build. As I said earlier, I hadn’t given it much thought when I was young, but was amazed at how much of an improvement it made in hygiene. It really was like night and day!

        Keep us all updated!

        Bex x

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  24. Hello Sophie; thank you for initiating this discussion, which is an important one yet seems to face a lot of negative sentiment in the UK, and online where a lot of it is inflammatory and wrong. Consequently, parents are often disuaded from their desire to pursue this procedure for their sons by negative reactions and unsupportive medical professionals. This was our experience.

    We had our son circumcised when he was about a month old. He was done at the circumcision centre in Luton. They use the plastibell and do the circumcision under local anaesthetic. It took about 5 minutes. We stayed with him during the procedure and he remained calm and undistressed throughout. He did not cry at any time and fell asleep on the way home. His sleeping and feeding pattern were not affected. We applied vaseline liberally to the area at each nappy change and the ring and residual foreskin fell off after about 5 days. He was completely healed within a week and the cosmetic result is excellent. It cost £75.

    Our decision was motivated in part by the fact that I am circumcised. Even before we were married, let alone expecting children, my wife spontaneously raised the subject and indicated that she would prefer it that any boys we had should also be circumcised. We discussed this and agreed that, if any sons did come along, they’d be done when they were born.

    We are both doctors, which gives us a unique insight into the pros and cons of the procedure; the hygiene benefits of circumcision are significaqnt. The procedure is protective against, as far as science can tell, all known sexually transmitted infections, including a 60-80% reduction in risk of HIV acquisition. It also reduces the risk of cervical cancer in female partners.

    Despite these facts, and our medical backgrounds, we were both very surprised by how difficult it was to obtain a circumcision for our son. My wife asked the midwives for guidance about obtaining a circumcision when they were doing their morning rounds on the maternity unit after our son was born. They were completely unhelpful. One even asked her “why do you want to bother having that done?”

    She then phoned a variety of private hospitals and clinics, all of which wanted to use a general anaesthetic and charge an exorbitant sum.

    We were on the verge of giving up, and the negative reaction and criticism we faced when making our enquiries almost caused us to call it a day. Luckily we found the Luton clinic online and they gave us an appointment for a couple of weeks later and we were relieved and delighted to finally get our son circumcised as we had wished.

    Critics often say that circumcision leads to a permanent change in the the body and the baby has no choice in the matter. But the same can be said of vaccination. This permanently alters the structure of the immune system, which comprises a lot more cells than are found in a foreskin, but, quite rightly, very few people refuse vaccination for their children. Moreover, the effectiveness of circumcision in preventing HIV infection (at 60-80%) is on par with the effectiveness of some vaccines.

    Personally, as someone who had to undergo the procedure as an adult owing to repeated infections and foreskin tightness, which was partly my motivation for wanting to spare my son the same problem, I can attest to several things:

    1) Based on my experience, there is no long term negative impact on sexual function.

    2) there’s no comparison in terms of hygiene – the circumcised state is much cleaner.

    3) It’s very comfortable and my preference now.

    I was not done as a baby, when I first had problems, because my GP was reticent to resort to the process and kept prescribing creams and pills. A circumcision later in life cured me instantly.

    When the process was first suggested, I was horrified at the thought of having an operation on my private parts and having to have a part of me removed.

    But, once it was done, I had to do a 180 degree about-face and change my opinion completely. I went from being hostile to the idea to being extremely supportive of circumcision.

    I hope these insights are helpful to any parent expecting a baby boy and considering circumcision.

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    1. Hi Chris,
      it was my pleasure to start this debate.

      Thanks for sharing your medical knowledge with me.

      I think many people just like to say it’s a cultural thing and not a “British” thing , because the pros and cons aren’t advertised freely by the NHS. Like why not ?
      You made a great point about vaccinations. It will be interesting to know what people would say about that.

      Yes unfortunately, if we choose to get our son circumcised in the UK then it must be privately.
      Luckily enough for me I didn’t have to search for a doctor as I was recommend one who preformed circumcisions on boys in S.W London. I’m sorry that it was little difficult for you and your wife. But thankfully in the end you got it done.

      That’s fantastic to know that the procedure wasn’t bad and the Vaseline application helped your son. Vaseline was my best friend when my son was circumcised too-(three years ago now).

      Thanks for passing by my blog post and commenting .
      Please share it.

      Kind regards,
      Sophie.

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  25. I see quite a conversation has developed since I last checked into this blog.
    In response to others’ posts, I am quite doubtful that there is a noticeable revival in routine infant circumcision in the UK. I think it remains very much a cultural and religious thing. I now know a few Muslim and African mums here in South London who chose to have their sons circumcised. But I think it remains rare for parents to have their baby boys snipped for hygiene or cosmetic reasons. I do think this would change if NHS hospitals were to make it available on maternity wards on a private basis. I think a lot of mums who would be in favour of having their boy circumcised end up not doing it because they get discouraged by the lack of ease in arranging it, as well as by the common disapproval of circumcision expressed by some midwives and health care professionals.

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  26. Hi Sophie, Liz, Chris and everyone else!

    Great to read even more positive experiences of parents in this country. Perhaps it was an over exaggeration when I said the ‘tide is turning’ but our experience so far has not been as negative as we had expected initially. When I was pregnant with our first child it was brought up at an antenatal class and we thought the views would be quite strongly against. However, and perhaps it was because of the multi-cultural nature of being in London, we were surprised by the responses. Yes, most said they would not be circumcising but the overall view was not as strongly against the idea as we expected. Perhaps outside of the city though the views might be different.

    As you may have seen, we have recently been searching for a doctor to circumcise our son and we found quite a few doctors and clinics in London offering the service. It was difficult to decide, but thanks to Sophie we have found an excellent doctor. We were totally put at ease when we spoke to him recently and knew he was the right choice. (If anyone wants his details email me – bexandneil99@gmail.com or Sophie!) When it comes to making the decision parents need access to good quality information. However a lot that is highly ranked on search engines tends to have a negative bias.

    I agree that it would be much easier if it was available on the maternity wards on a private basis, more like the way it is provided in the USA. I’m not sure what reaction we will get from our doctor when they find out we have had him circumcised.

    It was also good to read the positive experience of Chris. We are hoping for exactly the same for our son. One question it has made me consider is whether I want to stay in the room while it is done though. I am glad that despite the effort it took for Chris, they are happy with the decision. Some friends of ours have a couple of sons and the eldest has had a couple of UTIs, so we know how painful they can be, luckily we will be minimising the risk through circumcision.

    I do see vaccinations similarly to circumcision, they are a sensible, healthy choice. As parents we have to take many decisions for our children which will impact on their lives, and these are just some of them.

    Best Wishes to all
    Bex x

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  27. Sophie, very good to see women involved with this subject. As a man at 29 years old I went in for a vasectomy to be done by my Urologist who happens to be a woman. My wife went to my consultation and surprised me when she told her that I should be circumcised also! My wife is an R.N. and would be present when it was done. Two years later and our sex life is far better than before and we both like what was done, feels better and no long foreskin like before. You should search “Tuli” on the internet, about circumcision of most all males in the Philippines. Almost all preteens are brought in by their mothers to be circumcised usually by women. In the hot and humid climate males can easily develop infections, so all foreskin is removed. Its conducted in public and plenty of volunteers. Women are praised as heros for helping the boys with this step to becoming a man. Also, in African countries, males are counseled that having the clip helps control many STD’s. Women are the most effective at having males circd. and they should all take an active role in males health habits.

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  28. I do not see why my daughter can not have the benefit of better hygiene. Do you know of a good doctor that will trim her labia? IMO it looks better trimmed.
    We also want her to look like her mom, so when she turns 5 years old, we are giving her a boob job. Thanks.

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  29. I think its very good that you participate in educating about circumcision.
    The foreskin should always be removed soon after birth for it’s many benefits. It also supports a healthy penis development during puberty. It often helps the glans to flourish and freely flare out, since it can grow without the pressure of the foreskin.

    From the data provided by all the men circumcised as adults we can tell that uncircumcised men cannot experience the full spectrum of sexual pleasure experienced by a circumcised man.
    This is because nature intended the penis for reproduction and pleasure only as a stimuli to mate. The foreskin only triggers ejaculations faster, since a fast mating process meant higher efficiency.
    With circumcision, you can “harness” the pleasure and increase the sexual experience. It also increases the sexual experience of female partners by the different stimulation pattern.

    This concludes to the fact that the removal of the foreskin significant increases the life quality of your son, and failure in doing so is just really bad parenting with no excuse and should be treated as such.

    Every well informed parent would want to bestow his son with circumcision right after birth, since the procedure itself is the only downside. For infants, the procedure is really fast and gives the best possible result with almost no risk.

    It should be noted that it’s never too late for a man who has been passed over to get circumcised.
    However, the procedure becomes more complex, the costs are higher and you have to consider several weeks for healing, but the benefits of ‘catching-up’ are worth it.

    Some useful Information:
    http://www.circinfo.net/pdfs/CircBioEssays07.pdf
    http://www.circinfo.net
    http://www.circlist.com/

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  30. As a proud mother of 4 circumcised sons, I am immensely glad to read your blog. I was quite surprised to find such an article from England which has been fiercely anti circumcision for a while. These days, most people have only negative opinions on circ and the anti circ blogs, websites and comments on internet dissuade many young parents from opting it. That said, your blog just made my day.

    Since my husband is a captain in the navy, I’m the only one raising my sons and as such I had to follow my instinct to get the circ done. Apart from the health and hygiene benefits, aesthetics are also crucial. There was no way I was going to let my sons penises look like anteaters. So despite all the criticism from people for my choices, I don’t regret my decision. Besides, I know very well how difficult and painful the procedure is after adolescence so there was no way I was going to risk not doing it. As they say, prevention is better than cure. I’ve also persuaded my sisters and cousins to go for it and as a result, my entire family is foreskin free.

    My GP used a mogen clamp which resulted in a tight circ. Which method did you employ? If anyone has any questions about the prcedure, feel free to contact me.

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      1. Sure. It was both religion and personal hygiene that made me make this decision. I researched hygiene first then looked at it connected with my beliefs.
        Religiously it was said that it is hygienic to do so, therefore my decision was made up. It was that simple.

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  31. Hi Sofie im grateful for your post its excellent.

    I come from a family (Indian) that normally doesnt circumcise. Growing up I was aware that there was a difference but it wasnt an issue until I was a teenager and began dating. A Muslin girlfriend brought the topic up. Instead of applying my own values and beliefs (ethnocentric) I asked her about the social, cultural, historic, and religious significance of the practice. She first referenced the prophet Abraham’s covenant with God in the old testament. Then she explained that in Islam there are 5 mandatory hygienic practices for a person to undergo to be considered clean when praying. It peaked my interest but it wasnt util years later when I was married that I considered what it would be like to be circumcised. My Foreskin was long and there would be an occasional odor or irritation, nothing serious though. I searched the internet and read many conflicting views on the topic. Eventually I shared my interest of being circumcised with my wife. She is a nurse and was very supportive. She found a clinic within a few weeks. At the consultation the Doctor had an great bedside manner and listened to all my concerns. I was most afraid of losing sensation, possible pain, infection, or other complications. The Doctor had years of experience performing circumcision, he reassured me and had great insight into the procedure . He wanted to perform a low circumcision removing most of the inner foreskin and placing the scar close to the glands. I told the Doctor I wanted to keep the frenulum and more of the inner foreskin opting for a high circumcision and the Doctor listened. The procedure lasted fifteen minutes, under a local anesthetic, I didnt feel a thing. I took regular tylenol and advil that night, and went to work the next day. The stitches dissolved after a week and after a month back to normal activities. It took another 5-6 months for the scar line to smoothed out and line up. Overall I have no complaints the pain was minimal mostly itchy while it was healing and there was no loss in sensation. There is no snegma, odor, or irritation. My wife confided to me being circumcised is much more appealing and cleaner for her, she hasnt had a yeast infection since. My younger son is circumcised and Im waiting for my oldest son to be able to understand the procedure in case he would like to also be circumcised. I regret not having it done before. Being Circumcised feels manly and being clean and fresh has boosted my confidence.

    Thanks Don

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    1. Hi Don, thank you so much for sharing your story. It’s so touching to hear your personal views on the topic. I’m happy that the the whole process was a success for you.
      Many thanks for taking time to read this blog post and commenting. Please share it .
      Thanks SophieMoti.

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  32. Hi Sophie,

    I’m so happy to read your blog. It’s very difficult to find such a blog nowadays especially from the UK which has been fanatically anti circ for a while.

    Since my husband is a captain in the navy and visits rarely, I’m the only one raising my sons. As such, I decided to circ all my 4 sons and none has had any problem so far. I even convinced my sisters and cousins to opt it for their sons and none has had an issue with it either. I think an uncirc-ed penis looks gross. So despite being at the receiving end of a lot of criticism from many people, I’m glad I took the right decision. Unfortunately, many young parents are influenced by the anti circ propaganda.

    What influenced your decision? How was your experience?

    Thanks,
    Roxanne

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  33. Hi Sophie,

    I’m so happy to read this. It’s very difficult to find such a blog nowadays especially from the UK which has been fanatically opposed to circ for a while.

    Since my husband is a captain in the navy and visits rarely, I’m the only one raising my sons. As such, I decided to circ all my 4 sons and none has had any problem so far. Obviously, I wasn’t gonna let my sons’ penises look like anteaters. I even convinced my sisters and cousins to opt it for their sons and none has had an issue with it either. So despite being at the receiving end of a lot of criticism from many people, I’m glad I took the right decision. Unfortunately, many young parents are influenced by the anti circ propaganda.

    What influenced your decision? How was your experience?

    Thanks,
    Roxanne

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  34. Hi Sophie,

    I’m so happy to read this. It’s very difficult to find such a blog nowadays especially from the UK which has been fanatically opposed to circ for a while.

    Since my husband is a captain in the navy and visits rarely, I’m the only one raising my sons. As such, I decided to circ all my 4 sons and none has had any problem so far. Obviously, I wasn’t gonna let my sons’ penises look like anteaters. I even convinced my sisters and cousins to opt it for their sons and none has had an issue with it either. So despite being at the receiving end of a lot of criticism from many people, I’m glad I took the right decision. Unfortunately, many young parents are influenced by the anti circ propaganda.

    What influenced your decision? How was your experience?

    Thanks,
    Roxanne

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  35. It’s very important that, at an appropriate age, parents explain circumcision to their
    sons – reasons for it, that you had it done because you love them and want them to
    have the best experience in life, answer their questions and be open to discussion.

    There are propagandists out there who will try to get circumcised boys to believe that they were cruelly robbed of the most important source of sexual enjoyment, that they are mutilated, that they should have been given a choice in the matter, that circumcision is never needed and all the evidence in favor of it is false, etc. If
    parents are unwilling to talk about it (and to initiate the discussion if the boys do
    not) then the boys can get the idea that there is something underhanded and deceptive about the whole matter, and that they were fraudulently dealt with.

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  36. Hi all,
    May I say how delighted I am to see so many positive comments about circumcision. I am currently uncircumcised but have always wanted the snip. I’ve never had the nerve to take the plunge but your encouraging words are giving me the courage. I need to research a bit more about the different ‘styles’ as I don’t know what’s best, but it sounds like all styles beat the anteater look. Thanks again!

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    1. Some good resources for adults considering circumcision are the Yahoo group
      Inter-Circ and the web sites circlist.com and circinfo.com

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  37. Hi Sophie
    This is coming very late to the party but thank you for writing about this. It’s an issue that I think is well served the more we can openly talk about it. In most cases, any sort of discussion devolves into some kind of tribal warfare – it’s great seeing so many level headed responses here.

    I fail to see how people can be accused of ‘bad parenting’. Every parent only tries to do what is best for their child – and that often involves making not so easy decisions.

    I had to be circumcised in adulthood and I remember really being disgruntled that my parents had not made the decision for me as an infant. The surgery in an adult is significantly more complicated, carries a lot more risk and rarely results in as good a cosmetic result. I;m much happier now but I would always, always push for parents to make this decision.

    Thank you for your blog.

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    1. Hey, many thanks for your comment. Yes, as a parent making this decision nearly four years a go was difficult but I can say with my hand on my heart it was the best decision I ever made for my son. We have NEVER had an infection. So I’m so pleased. I’m sorry to hear that process to be circumcised as an adult is much more complicated. Take care. SophieMoti 🙂

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  38. I wonder if anyone can recommend a good practice where I may have an adult circumcision. In the London area. I see lots of places advertised on Google but have no way of knowing how good, safe and welcoming they are. I am extremely nervous about the whole thing and will only be able to go through with it if I have confidence in the doctor/establishment. My partner wanted me snipped and would have ‘held my hand’ through it, but sadly she is no longer with us, so I’ve no one to encourage me. Boy do I wish I’d been done on my first birthday. All advice gratefully received!

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  39. Hi Jim my comment is for you. You asked about styles Barry is right in suggesting circlist.com its a great site. Ultimately the procedure is for you, your body image, and hygiene. What outcome do u want? Consider the risk and benefits carefully and mention ur concerns to your doctor during the consultation. Personally i would suggest the gomco clamp and opting for high circumcision. I kept a major portion of my inner foreskin and frenulum and love the result. The disadvantage to this is that there will be a noticeable scar line and a two tone difference in skin color. Other men favor low circumcision because of the cosmetic aspect, it results in a smooth shaft and the scar line is hidden in a crease near the glands. After going through the procedure as an adult, I regretted not having it done sooner.
    Good luck

    http://www.londoncircumcision.org.uk/

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  40. Never too late to get circumcised? I read your blog through and am planning my own circumcision soon. At 57 and born in the UK it was not that common and none of my family were circumcised so I remained intact. Now my wife has asked me to get circumcised for her benefit, less chance of uti’s and a cleaner penis at all times. As you can imagine I was a bit worried about a late in life circumcision but now we have found a local clinic and have elected for a freehand job I am sure it will be fine. With hindsight I would have been circumcised in my 20’s had a previous girlfriend had her way and I would also encourage parents to circumcise their sons too. Thanks for a great opportunity to share and debate this very personal decision.

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  41. Hi Y’all,
    I am of a similar age to Mark and in a similar position. In my twenties my girlfriend’s sister said all men should be circumcised. My girlfriend wasn’t bothered either way, and though I fancied the idea (let’s face it, foreskins are slack and boring), it wasn’t worth the pain and effort.
    Now I’m older, I wish I’d listened to my girlfriend’s sister. Ah well, you can’t win ’em all. Best to all.

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  42. My son was circumcised the day after his birth, 6 years ago. We have never regretted the removal of his foreskin. Like you, we never had any problems with infections or hygiene. He healed beautifully and has a fully exposed glans with no slack skin left. There was never any doubt that he would be circumcised. Our boy seems very happy with his penis, and only recently became interested in the knowing why some boys look different. Do you ever wonder what you’ll tell your son about what happened to his penis when he’s old enough to understand? Let’s just say, it’s a delicate subject LOL.

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    1. That’s good to know that you have never had a problem with your sons circumcised penis. You bring up a very good point about telling him why his penis may look different to others. Or it may actually look the same. Either way for sure it will be a very delicate subject, especially as children ask really in depth questions nowadays. I will share my experience on my blog whenever it happens. Thanks for commenting Peter, please let me know how you have dealt with the questioning of a circumcised penis with your son.

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